Depression can have a major impact on your sex life and should be addressed as soon as the problem arises. People become depressed for many different reasons,such as stress, to being unhappy with their current position in life. It’s important to realise if you or your partner are depressed and take little steps each day to combat the depression – although it’s sometimes easier said than done.
If depression isn’t bad enough, it can have a negative impact on your relationships and your sex life.
Common Problems of Depression
Depressed people often are lacking in energy and don’t have the energy to engage in intimate relations with their partner. It’s not a matter of them not being willing to have sex. It’s a matter of not having enough in the tank for erotic engagement.
Depressed people can become overly sensitive. This will cause them to react defensively on whimsical jokes from their partner and create distance between them. They can also feel inadequate about their bodies and this also deters them from sexual intercourse. They may also be lacking in self-esteem and they don’t feel that they are worthy of love.
Depression can also cause people to flat line. This means that they do not experience the spikes of pleasure that a healthy person would, leaving them incapable of doing anything more than is absolutely necessary for survival. They are constantly down in the doldrums and this can be really hard to come out of once you are there.
People with depression often create a barrier between them and their loved ones and it’s hard to break the barrier.
Treating depression can be a tough one. Let’s take a look at some possible solutions.
Treating depression means first evaluating your lifestyle choices. Is there a healthy diet involved? How about exercise?
If a person is not getting enough essential nutrients through diet,they may be lacking in certain things the body needs to be healthy and happy. The best thing to do is get some blood work done withthe local physician and they will be able to explain if there are dietary vitamins and minerals lacking.
Exercise is another great way to fight depression. It’s well known that doing physical activity releases endorphins which is a chemical produced by the brain that makes people happy. The old saying a healthy body, healthy mind is very true. If a person is eating healthily and exercising regularly then they are more likely to be happy and healthy.
However, it can be tricky to find the motivation to do these when you’re already depressed…
Make Sure You Are Well Rested
Getting enough sleep is very important to maintaining a happy and healthy life. Sleep deprived people will often be irritable and have a tendency to have dramatic mood swings. Not getting enough sleep can also affect your libido in negative ways. When you are sleep deprived, your body doesn’t get enough time to rejuvenate and heal itself so it’s really important to get enough rest.
Sleeping long hours, on the other hand, can be a sign of depression – escaping from life in sleep.
Seek Professional Help
If depression becomes too much to handle, it’s best to seek the help of a professional. This could be the local doctor or a psychologist.
They may prescribe medication, but this should be a last resort after analysing lifestyle and taking a natural route. There are many health professionals who can help you – it’s a matter of finding one that will do the best job and not necessarily reach straight for their prescription book to load you up with a bunch of pills. Cognitive therapy is a good natural option, if you find the right psychologist.
Go to a Sex Therapist
If depression has affected your sex life in a dramatic way and you’re finding that you can’t get back to the level of intimacy you once had, a sex therapist could be another good port of call. Sometimes you and your partner need an intermediary to help resolve problems that may arise in the bedroom.
A sex therapist can look at your situation from an outsider’s point of view, make a clear assessment of the problem, and gently steer you in the right direction. It’s important to choose a therapist that you feel comfortable with, as you will be talking about things that are quite personal. Don’t worry though, I’m sure they have heard it all and it’s their job, so be at ease when in the therapist’s office.
Don’t let depression ruin your sex life and relationships. Recognise that something is wrong. Seek logical solutions to the problems. Whatever the problem is, with a little patience, research, and persistence, it can be fixed. If you think that or your partner might be depressed, then it’s time to address the problem.